more fuel to the fire

“The other day you when we were talking about Thanksgiving you said “your family” but, they’re not just my family, they are your family too. It’s not my fault or their fault that you’re not as close to them.” (implying that it is MY fault--actually it’s my decision and I'm okay with that)

“Dad, I wasn’t saying that. I was just making the distinction between your side of the family and mom’s side of the family."